Wednesday, June 30, 2010

First Month 100% Natural, In Words & Pictures

Has it been a month already? Wow!!
So far, so good! I've been getting a lot of positive feedback about the new look, and the supposed "guts" that it took to go natural. (More on that later) My biggest critics have been my parents (big surprise there), but even they have had to admit that they like some of the styles. The chunky twist out is a hit with them. I guess with that they can see that I didn't cut that much of my hair. (Side note: When my dad noticed that I cut my hair--a full WEEK after the BC--he said I looked like a boy. Ironically, the day after I did it, he was talking about how cute my hair was. *insert major side-eye here* ) My aunt/former stylist saw it and said it looked pretty good. And I've gotten comments from friends, coworkers and strangers on how cute it is and they could never do that. Usually I'm good at restraining myself from commenting. Inside I want to go into a diatribe about "You can do it if you want to. This is the hair God gave you! It's not that hard, just requires patience... yadda yadda yadda" but usually I just act like I don't hear it.

Anyway, on to the pictures! Surprisingly, I haven't taken that many pictures since cutting it. That's mainly because most of my previous pictures were taken at work. Now that I'm in a new area with horrible lighting and a lot more work to do, I don't get to pose for the camera as often. But I do have a few I haven't shared! Y'all already saw the slightly rough picture from the cruise, when I still had a little bit of permed ends. I've trimmed those (still need a professional trim though) and have pretty much perfected my wash & go.





























 

after i picked out my fro. didn't realize it would be as big as it was!

 

Today, 30 days in!

note: there were more pix, but some got lost in the move from Blogger & I can't remember which ones they were! Sorry!
So here are the things I'm dealing with now:

  1. I still need a stylist. I know I've been doing this for a few months now, but it would be such a relief to have someone who has been taught about hair taking care of it.

  2. Dryness. I'm searching for something that will help my hair retain moisture & a bit of shine without it being greasy. Because greasy is not cute at all.

  3. more style options. I know I've talked about this previously, but now that my hair is even shorter, I'm at even more of a loss as to what to do with it.

  4. Tangling & shedding (all the more reason for me to have a professional natural hair stylist)


There you have it! My first month au naturale!

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

100 percent of school's first class college-bound

I saw this story on television a few months ago (maybe it was on the Today Show, or Black in America 2, IDK) but I don't think I shared it here. Even if I did, it's worth revisiting. I love seeing young black men going against the status quo, determined to do something with their lives! This is proof that where you're from, how poor you are and what others say/expect are NOTHING when met with positive role models who demand the best, encourage youths to follow their dreams, and give them the tools to be successful. And as a Jacksonian, I am proud that one of these young men will be a Tiger!

 

Class of 2010 students shown with their red and gold ties, signifying acceptance to at least one college.

 


By SHARON COHEN, AP National Writer Sharon Cohen, Ap National Writer – Mon Jun 28, 1:56 am ET

CHICAGO – For each boy, the new school offered an escape and a chance at a life that seemed beyond reach.
Krishaun Branch was getting D's, smoking reefer a lot, skipping school twice a week. His mother was too busy working to know what he was doing. He liked to hang out in the streets; having relatives in gangs was his armor.

When a young man came to tell his eighth-grade class about a new high school on Chicago's South Side, Krishaun wanted no part of it — until he heard students would have laptops. Suddenly, he was on board.

Marlon Marshall was nonchalant about everything, school included. His mother pressed him to go to college, but it seemed like a pipe dream. Sometimes she'd yell at him and his brothers for his bad grades. Once she just cried when she picked up their report cards.

Marlon had heard, too, about the new school. Students would be accepted by lottery so his mediocre grades wouldn't disqualify him. He thought it was worth a shot.

Marcus Bass figured there just had to be something better for him. Barely a teen, he'd been shot at, robbed a couple of times and had seen terrible things in his housing project. His parents argued constantly; life was chaotic.

He was sold by the recruiter's description of a "different" high school.

Urban Prep would be a charter high school. It would bring together some 150 boys from some of the poorest, gang-ravaged neighborhoods and try to set them on a new track. They'd have strict rules: A longer school day — by two hours. Two classes of English daily. A uniform with jackets and ties.

And Urban Prep had a goal — one that seemed audacious, given that just 4 percent of the Class of 2010 was reading at or above grade level when they arrived at the school in 2006.

In four years, they were told, they'd be heading to college.
___

From the very start, Tim King had a grand plan.
"I wanted to create a school that was going to put black boys in a different place," says the founder of Urban Prep, "and in my mind, that different place needed to be college."
It had taken four years for King to win permission to open the Urban Prep Charter Academy for Young Men, which receives about 75 percent of its funding from the Chicago public schools; the rest is private.
King's plan was both idealistic and grounded in the harsh realities of inner-city life: He'd take boys from tough situations, many way behind in school, and if they followed his road map, they'd get into college.
If the premise seemed simple, implementing it was anything but.
About 85 percent of the Class of 2010 came from low-income families, the overwhelming majority single mother households. The students would face problems far beyond poor academics.

Safety, for example. Some kids had to alter their bus routes so they wouldn't face gangs who might see their blazers and ties as inviting targets.

The uniforms are part of a philosophy that blends discipline with an oath that is the school's guiding principle. Every morning, students repeat the creed:

"We believe... We are college bound. ...

"We are exceptional — not because we say it, but because we work hard at it ....

"We believe in ourselves. ... We believe."
___
Krishaun didn't believe.

When he discovered what he'd signed up for, he wanted out immediately.

No girls? School until 4:30 p.m.? A jacket and tie? You've got to be kidding. But his mother urged him to hang in. So did an aunt who threatened to stop buying him clothes and giving him spending money.

So he stayed, and raised hell.

He fought, he cursed the teachers, he got suspended. He wanted to get kicked out.

"I went to the principal and said, 'I don't want to be here. Just send me home,'" he recalls. "I didn't like the discipline. I didn't like the surroundings. I didn't like the uniform. I didn't like anything.'

Krishaun started sophomore year on probation. He was failing some classes and straddling two worlds: A student at Urban Prep. And a kid clinging to street life who'd tuck a white T-shirt into his bag — part of the uniform of the gangbangers — so he could hang out with them.

After fighting with another student sophomore year, Krishaun transferred to a Chicago public school. But he couldn't stop his downhill slide, earning lots of F's and D's.

Then came a brutal wake-up call. A close friend was beaten to death.

Krishaun started seeing Urban Prep in a new light. He pleaded to return.

"I knew I was going down the wrong path," he says. "I had to graduate or my life was going to be nothing. ... I'd seen the streets were not going to get me anywhere."

He lobbied Evan Lewis, the recruiter who'd visited his elementary school and had become a mentor.

"He didn't take no or maybe for an answer," Lewis says.

Krishaun was readmitted. He buckled down, and during his junior year was honored five times with a "student of the week" designation.

"My personality changed," Krishaun says. "My posture changed. My speech changed. A lot about me has changed."

But Krishaun still has a glint in his eye and an easy charm that helped him become president of the Student Government Association.

"He has made if not a 180-degree turn, maybe a 160-degree turn ... ," says Lewis, vice president of institutional advancement. "He's a very smart kid, a very savvy kid. He sees the big picture. That's the reason he survived on the streets. That's the reason he'll be successful."
___

At Urban Prep, every student has at least one mentor — maybe a coach or a teacher. About 60 percent of teachers at the Englewood campus (Urban Prep has another school and plans to open a third this fall) are black men. They serve as confidantes and role models to students, many of whom have no fathers in their lives.

All staff members have school-assigned cell phones so students (and parents) can phone day or night. And they do.

Just ask Corey Stewart, a 24-year-old history teacher.

Students will call and say, "'I'm stranded and I don't have a way from downtown to get home,'" Stewart says. "'Can you come pick me up?' Absolutely, I'm on my way. Or 'Mr. Stewart, I'm afraid that I might get jumped on after school today. Is it possible you can take me home?' Of course."

Stewart says he doesn't worry about becoming too friendly with his students and won't hesitate to fail someone who's not measuring up.

Stewart leads a "pride" (more lion imagery) — another name for home room that meets three times a day.

It's one of the unorthodox steps taken for a student population that requires extra attention. That's the reason for longer school hours, the double dose of English and mandatory 20 minutes of reading daily, the assessments every six weeks, Saturday classes and summer school for those who need it.

Of the 150 teens who started in 2006, 95 lasted four years. (Another dozen were transfers.) They've become a tight-knit group.

So when Cameron Barnes' mother died last year, he returned to school the next day. "It was like being with family," he says.

And when it came time for his mother's funeral, the members of his "pride" stood with him.
___
Marlon Marshall was in a bind.

His mother announced she was moving to Michigan. She was tired of the violence engulfing her neighborhood; her brother was shot on their front porch.

Marlon wanted to attend Urban Prep his senior year. But he had no home.

Urban Prep staff huddled, and with his mother's permission, he was taken in by assistant principal Richard Glass, a Don Cheadle lookalike with an unflappable manner and a buttery voice made for radio.

After nine months under the same roof, Marlon calls Glass "godfather" or "Pops."

Glass calls Marlon "a great young man" who falls in love easily — a declaration that prompts the 18-year-old to rub his hand over his face in embarrassment.

Marlon had moved around a lot, frequently living in neighborhoods so dangerous his mother kept him indoors.

"Living here has given me so much freedom just to be a kid," he says, sitting in Glass' spotless kitchen. "I really haven't had a childhood. I couldn't go outside."

Just having a curfew (11 p.m.) was thrilling. "I can't even the explain the feeling I had when we were going over the rules," Marlon says. "I need structure. I sometimes get sidetracked or a little bit lazy."

And when Marlon's grades began slipping, Glass pushed him to turn things around — and he earned a 3.0 average his senior year, his best ever.
__

The acceptance letters began arriving this spring.

Trinity College. The University of Illinois. Howard University. The University of Virginia. Morehouse College. Indiana State University. Tuskegee University. And on and on.

When all 107 seniors had received letters, there was a celebration.

Marcus Bass wanted to cry — but he refrained. It had been a rocky four years, riddled with doubts, struggles in biology and an attitude adjustment.

"At first, I thought everybody was out to get me," Marcus says in a barely audible voice. "I wasn't used to taking orders from anyone. I was used to just doing my own thing."

There were warnings, he says, from teachers and administrators. There were outside pressures, too.

Guys he grew up with, would say "'you ain't even with us no more ... ,'" Marcus says. "I try to tell them there's something better than that. They just ... blow me off."

He's convinced Urban Prep has kept him out of trouble. "It's hard to say how they've saved my life," he says, "but they have."

But the Urban Prep graduation is an unfolding story and King knows it.

"It's just a milestone," he says. "It's not an endgame. This is not the fulfillment of our mission. (That) comes when we are able to see our students succeed in college and that may not be apparent for four or five years."
___

On a muggy June night, the graduates are gathered in cap and gown, reflecting on their journey.

Krishaun Branch, the kid who stopped himself from going over the edge, is heading to Fisk University in Tennessee.

He rattles of his emotions: "Happiness. Sadness. Proud. Proud of myself. Thankful. Successful."

Marcus Bass, the kid who wondered if he'd make it, grins with relief as he ponders a future at Jackson State University in Mississippi.

"It feels like I don't have anything to prove to anyone but now I have to prove something to myself — and that's making it through college," he says.

And Marlon Marshall, the kid who found a new anchor in life, will attend Earlham College in Indiana. "Everybody said we wasn't going to make it," he says, "but we're here and about to do bigger and better things."

Marlon's father — he left the family when his son was 3 months old — is in from Mississippi, his mother from Michigan.

Marlon doesn't remember when he last saw his dad, but on this night, they share a tearful embrace. "You're a much better man than I ever was," Marlon Sr. says, burrowing his face in his son's chest.

"Don't blame yourself 'cause I never stopped loving you ... ," his teary-eyed son consoles him. "I never gave up on you, man. I always knew that you was trying."

There would be another embrace before graduation night was over when Marlon Sr. thanked Richard Glass — the man who guided his son to the finish line.
___

Tim King asks the graduates to take the stage and recite their creed one final time.

They repeat the lines, rapidly and forcefully. The last words are joyous, and emphatic.

"WE BELIEVE."

A few raise their arms in triumph.

Then they toss their mortarboards in the air, red-and-gold tassels flying as the crowd cheers.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Today's randomness: "Smile!"

"Smile! It's not that bad! It'll be okay!"


I hate when people say that.

IMO, this is such an insensitive comment. It brings about so many questions/comments.

1. am I supposed to walk around grinning at nothing in particular? There are people who do that. Lunatics.

2. Who are you, that I should bestow my beautiful smile upon you? Just because you're some guy telling me to smile, I'm supposed to oblige you?

3. You don't know how bad "that bad" is. Downplaying whatever it is that's keeping me from smiling is not the way to cheer me up. If you were really concerned, you'd say "You look down? You okay?" Of course I'd say I was fine (cuz why the hell would I open up to a random stranger?) but that's way better than the "get over it" crap you're giving me.

4. If that's your attempt to holla, you should stop. It's lame.

5. I don't wanna. Now leave me be.

Of course, I don't say any of these things. Think them, and some other unnecessarily mean comments, but never say them. Instead I just flash a brief, fake smile. Because that's what nice girls do, isn't it?

Successfully Market Your Home for Sale

From REALTOR.com

 

Home selling is more complex than it used to be. Sellers need to be aware of a range of issues so they can deal with many complex forms.

REALTOR® Richard Walsh of Dover, MA offers tips on how to successfully market your home.

“Marketing a home requires a specialized approach because each home is unique, the marketplace is always in flux, interest rates frequently change and new buyers search for homes each day.
In such a dynamic marketplace, you can get best sales results by working with a Realtor who can craft marketing plans tailored for individual homes, market conditions and buyers. Experienced Realtors base their marketing efforts on extensive training, what has proven successful in previous transactions and ongoing research into industry best practices.

Selling can entail a variety of marketing strategies. Realtors can assist in marketing your home to potential buyers in several ways:

Preparation: Before being placed on the market, homes must be in ’show’ condition. Realtors can explain what repairs and upgrades are required and that are most likely to produce the best results and give the best return on investment.

Pricing: Realtors do more than price homes for sale, they also construct sale terms designed to hasten the selling process. It may be, for example, that a home priced at $150,000 with a 2 percent seller credit to the buyer at closing will be far more attractive to purchasers than a home priced at $147,000. Why? That 2 percent credit is worth $3,000 to the purchaser at closing – the time when buyers are most likely strapped for cash.

Marketing: Realtors will execute strategies and programs to get the home sold. Typically this includes placement on the local MLS and real estate Web sites, as well as related marketing, advertising and networking. Open houses, office tours, agent access to the home via the use of a lock box and networking with both local and out-of-town agents are also common.”

Click to read more of Richard Walsh’s blog.

Sunday, June 20, 2010

So this is what music has come to?

John Blu- "In Love With Yo Booty"

I was floored when I heard this song. The guy says "Don't turn around 'cuz 'm in love with your back, but if you gotta turn around I hope your face match" and then proceeds to say he's in love with some chick's ass over & over again. Really? So this is what's hot now, huh?

I'm not really a music snob so I don't think it's that (though I do long for a time where it took more than just a tight beat for a song to be considered a hit). I'm certainly not a prude so it can't be that. And I'm too young to be an old fogy who is just out of touch with what's in, right? Well hell, I'll be that if it means not co-signing bullish like this.

Yanno, I was planning on talking about how today's music is a result of a cyclical problem stemming from society's shift in focus from education to entertainment as a means of making it. How this shift in focus actually harmed the quality of music due to, among other things, the lack of command over the English language (similes, metaphors, subject/verb agreements, etc.).

But... iCan't. Those who get it already get it. Those who don't (or who choose not to) will say I'm hating and continue shaking their asses to it.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

SBTS*: The Seattle Cop vs. The Seventeen Year Old

That's "Shouldna Been Talkin' Shyt." Thanks O Hell Nawl.

You can find the article here but to make a long story short: A cop stops a group of young women for jaywalking. Two of the girls get belligerent and put their hands on the cop. The guy tries to restrain one of the girls and when the other walked up on him and... well you saw it. Now people are claiming excessive force and police brutality. Some are pulling out the race card and some think he was wrong to that so-often-twisted adage "A man should NEVER hit a woman."


These people strike me as the same who would blame a teacher for their child slacking off or "the man" for holding them down while not even attempting to look for a job. At some point personal responsibility and common sense have to come into play!


Maybe they have had bad prior experiences with the police, so I understand hostility. I'm no fan of the police myself. However, I know that if I'm stopped, respect and saying the right thing in the right way go far. Because not every officer is evil, there's no reason to be that combative off the bat. Especially not for no dayum jaywalking. (C'mon, jaywalking son? When the most you would've gotten was maybe a $50 ticket?) And considering at that point he was the lone officer in a hostile, growing crowd, I'm of the opinion that he had to do something to maintain order & keep her from interfering with him handling the other young woman. Sometimes it pays to just shut up and not try to prove how bad you are...


But maybe I'm missing something... I'd love for those who think the cop was out of line to explain their thinking. Would it have been excessive if it were a man? Or if she were older? If it had been a female cop in the same situation, would the same actions be considered excessive? Would a method such as tasering be considered "less excessive"? If everyone in the situation were the same race, would it have blown up like it did? Someone speak on it!

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

The Personal Shopper



Wouldn’t it be great to have a personal shopper? As a bit of a shopaholic, I think it would be great!

Think about it: A personal shopper is someone who is devoted to finding what works for you. They take things like your style, budget, favorite colors, etc. into account when shopping for you. And a truly professional personal shopper also knows the market. No matter if they are looking for clothing, jewelry or home decor, a personal shopper should be able to reasonably assess what is right for you.

Well guess what? If you are in the market for a new home, a real estate agent is YOUR personal shopper. And a Realtor is the best of the best! A Realtor brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the business of buying a home.  In fact, a licensed real estate professional provides much more than the service of helping you find the home of your dreams.  Realtors are not just sales agents.  They are expert negotiators, seasoned financial advisors, and superb navigators around the local neighborhood.  They are members of the National Association of Realtors (NAR) and must abide by a Code of Ethics and Standards of Practice enforced by the NAR.  A professional Realtor is your best resource when approaching to buy a home.

If you are in the market for a home, don’t go at it alone! Work with a professional who is dedicated and has your best interest in mind. If you are in the Metro Jackson area, or if you plan on moving to the area soon, give me a call today! I want to make your next move your best move yet!

Let’s get shopping!

Sunday, June 13, 2010

The Anti-Social Sorority Girl (intro to a growth experience)

The title is from a comment that someone made about me. And thinking about it, I guess it's true; I am a bit anti-social. Way more so than you would think a sorority girl to be. But I need to change that. One because of the career that I chose. If I don't get out there and network my ass off, I won't get started. Two, I'm too young to have this old person's life. Work, school, home is my usual routine... boring! Last, and definitely least, I guess I could go out and see if there is anyone out there who kinda sorta fits what I'd want in a mate. Bitter pessimistic me says no, but it may be interesting to look & see.

So anyway, guess the point is that I'm gonna attempt to be a little less anti-social, put myself out there some, push past my comfort zone. So if/when you see a post that says ASSG, that's what it's gonna be about. There are supposed to be various networking events in & around the city of Jackson soon, so maybe I'll make a little progress.... We'll see!

Traveling with Tori D.

Should any of you ever have the pleasure of vacationing with me, you'd do well to know before hand the rules of engagement. So without further ado:

  1. PROPER PLANNING PREVENTS PISS POOR PERFORMANCE
    I am not a "go with the flow" person when it comes to traveling. I want to know well in advance where I'll be laying my head, how I'll be getting there, and a general idea of what I'll be doing so I can pack clothes accordingly. If you are not like that, we may have some problems. The best thing you can do is let me know up front that you suck at planning so I can take care of things myself. But doing stuff like waiting until the day I'm supposed to leave to tell me that the hotel isn't taken care of even though you said you'd do it? Baaaaaad business, my friend. (Plus, that gets over into the issue of trust  honesty & basically breeds a whole lot of resentment.)

  2. KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CAN "BALL"
    Maybe you can't ball at all. That's fine. Usually I can't ball either, but when I travel (going back to rule #1) I save money in the months prior to the trip. I scrounge up a few dollars here and there, managing not to spend everything I have. It's just proper planning people! So please don't go somewhere with me if you've got champagne dreams and a beer budget! Now if we doin' beer things & the beer budget is all that's needed, cool. But going somewhere dayum near broke? Naaahhhhh, cuz that means you expect me to cover for ya ass. In fact...

  3. I DON'T GOT YOU, AND NO YOU'RE NOT GOOD FOR IT
    The bank of Tori D is closed! Run out of business by folks taking out loans and not repaying them! So I can't be the one playing Captain Save 'Em if you're rolling with me. If you don't have enough to eat you'll just be hungry until you get home. If you don't have enough to shop you'll be souvenir-less. If you don't have enough to get back I hope you can find a job & settle in there. My apologies to any future friends who would actually be true to their word & pay me back, but I'm not taking that risk anymore. Shame that one person ruins things for everyone!

  4. SOMETIMES, I NEED ME TIME
    Yes, I just need a break from people from time to time. Even on vacation. I'll be okay, you don't have to be all up on me at every turn. I won't go too far. I'll come back in a better mood once I just have a few minutes with no one but me, myself & I. That being said...

  5. TRUE TRAVEL BUDDIES DON'T LET OTHER ROAM A STRANGE CITY ALONE... ESPECIALLY NOT AT NIGHT!
    I mean, do I really have to explain this?! The level of unconcern that shows will automatically get you kicked out of the circle of trust. We operate on the buddy system here!

  6. DON'T EXPECT ME TO SIT IN A HOTEL ROOM
    Look, I can sit up and watch TV at home, for free! Why would I want to go to another city just to do the same thing? Especially a city I've never been to, and especially if it's a city known for its night life! If you're that much of a homebody, why even bother going on a trip? Have yourself a staycation and be through with it. Don't bother traveling with me!

  7. IF WE'RE BUNKING TOGETHER, BE CONSIDERATE
    That means bring air freshener if you know the bathroom is a toxic dump after you're done with it. Try not to get your random body hairs everywhere. Go see a doctor about that sleep apnea (or at least warn a sista so I can get some earplugs). Yanno, the little things.


Alright, I think that's it. See, I'm not a hard person to vacation with! I just wanna make sure I'm having fun just like everyone else. So who wants to go on a trip? I'm taking applications for next year now so that we'll have time to go through the screening process.... LOL

Thursday, June 10, 2010

"It's because of Erykah Badu's video."

That was the reasoning that someone gave as to "why everyone is going natural now."

I shyt you not.

Now, there are several things wrong with this:

1. The only thing Ms. Badu kept on in that video was a do-rag. You couldn't even see her hair! So #logicFAIL

2. Not everyone is going natural, proved by the four chicks around me exclaiming that they could never do it in the conversation that included this absolutely absurd remark.

3. Just as with everything else, people have their own reasons for doing things. Some for healthy hair's sake, some for the pro-Black thing, some just cuz they like the look. Why try to lump everyone into a category?


What are some of the most laughable comments you've heard about natural black hair?

Fight the good fight, or just say "F*** it"?

From reading this blog, y'all probably realize that while I am not afraid of controversial discussions and issues, I am not one of those people who tries to find racism/sexism/etc. in everything. I realize that fugged up things happen to just about everyone, so I'm not quick to yell out "You're a misogynist!" or "That's racist!" whenever I see some unsavory ish that happens to involve a minority. To me, decrying everything as racist, sexist, ageist, unfair, mean, etc. is like the boy crying wolf. Eventually people are gonna stop listening because you never learned to pick your battles and don't know when to STFU.

But sometimes I am tempted to go off and tell people about themselves. Especially when they are spewing horridly inaccurate information that is skewed to make another group look bad. A few weeks ago (when I started this post) it was a white woman on Twitter berating Black women & insisting that we were all herpes-infested whores. Recently it was the ignorance spewed by Slim Thug and the even more ignorant co-signing from other black men.

A lot of sisters have taken to the blogs, forums, Twitter, and wherever else to fight back. And I say good for them. If you have the wherewith all to deal with ig'nant *ssholes and irrelevant has-beens seeking attention by any means necessary, do so! Someone has to do it. Me? I think I'm just gonna try to ignore ignorance. It's sort of like the "Don't feed the animals" sign at the zoo. You start with one, then the others come along with the same mess, only more over the top to get a more over the top reaction. Eventually someone falls over the rails & the body is never found...

Wait, wat?

Never mind.

Point is, if the controversy comes to me, sure I'll address it. But til then, F it. Stupidity isn't worth the effort to address it. Besides, when arguing with a fool, it's hard to tell who's who.

Things You Shouldn't Do While Drunk


Yeah yeah, we all know you shouldn't drink & drive, and drunk dialing is a no-no. But I have a few other things (in no particular order) that you may wanna wait until you're sober to try...

1. Giving yourself a haircut.
When I did my BC, I was throwed! I'd finished off about a third of a bottle of wine & had several glasses of my new favorite drink (Ciroc red berry & papaya juice. You can thank me later). Needless to say, the cutting didn't go quite as expected (cut too much in some places, not enough in others). On top of that, I couldn't judge how much shampoo I needed... I rinsed my hair at least four times and still had a little left. Finally I said forget it & kept going w/ what I was doing. Fortunately it came out very cute but it probably could've been better if I wasn't blitzed.

2. Mani/pedis.
While in Miami I bought some very cute nail polish and couldn't wait to try them out. Now, I had gone to Wet Willies and had a Call a Cab. Someone should've taken everything from me. Phone, camera, and nail polish included. I really don't even remember doing my nails, but when I woke up the next morning, my left hand had red nail polish all over it. On the right hand, one coat of blue polish barely covered four of my nails, while the thumb remained bare. And my toes? Two of them had been polished red... over a deep purple polish that I'd chipped away. No bueno.

3. Tweeting.
Drunk dialing has never been a problem for me, and I've rarely drunk texted. But tweeting? Maaaaan oh man, that is a whole 'nother issue! I guess it's because I tweet so much that it's pretty much second nature to pic up my phone and go straight to Uber. When I've had a few though, the results are unpretty... Typos galore. And now that the Library of Congress is gonna be keeping record of all of those? I think I'm gonna need a designated tweeter.

4. Doing a presentation of any kind.
This one is from my sophomore year of college. One of my guy friends who I was crushing on was having a birthday party at a friend's house. I went & had several cups of vodka & ______ (I wanna say Hawaiian Punch for some reason). Long story short, I blacked out & can only go by the stories that my roommate told me and the huge knot on my forehead from bumping it against the toilet in my attempts to not upchuck all over myself... which I did. The next day I had a final in one of my business classes. Cool, no problem right? Well my generous professor decided that she would give the students who missed a presentation the opportunity to make it up. Guess who one of those students happened to be? Yours truly. I stood there rambling, still drunk, for what seemed like an eternity. Thank goodness I already had an A in that class, because after that my final grade slid to a B.

5. Walking around on a boat.
I was all disoriented on the cruise... Fortunately I don't get motion sickness... But ummmm yeah, don't do it. That's all I have to say about that!

The BC Story

Saturday, May 15 was my birthday and the day I'd planned on doing the big chop. I was a little hype (or trying to be), but mostly I was nervous. I still wasn't sure how I'd look with the super short hair and I wasn't excited and ready like I thought I should be. I read all these stories about people just being too frustrated to deal with two textures or feeling like it was just time. "You'll know" they say. Well I didn't know it that day so I didn't do it. "F it," I thought, "I'll stick with these twists & twist outs for a couple more months and decide what I'm gonna do once it's been a full year."

Well, I did not make it to July. I barely made it to June. On June 1 I woke up and my hair looked like absolute crap to me. Granted, it didn't look much different than it had the day before, but I was sick of it. The ends were just hanging there, all lifeless and boring. I decided that morning that I was not gonna deal with it another day. That kinda threw a little wrench in my plans, considering that I didn't want to cut my hair myself. Me + scissors + hair = bad business. (Or at least it seemed like it would. I've never before attempted to cut hair.) But I spent the day online looking at BC videos and searching forums to see how others had done it.

When I finally got home that night, I was a little buzzed but I was determined to go ahead as planned. (BTW, I would not recommend anyone try that!) After I washed my hair, I took the scissors & went to work! I'm mad cuz I ended up chopping off some of the new growth in the back :( Shoot, I couldn't see it! And there ended up being more permed ends left up front than I realized. I was in shock for a little while, and a few tears did drop. My hair had never been that short!

 









fresh off the chopping block. in shock & still a bit tipsy...

But anyway, I twisted it & then took it down the next morning....

AND I LOVED IT!!

 

I didn't have any idea that those kinda curls were hiding under there! I could not keep my hands out of my hair (and still have problems w/ that now). I didn't care for the pix I took from the front that day, as something about them seemed a little off... But here's a pic from a few days later and another from today!



I'll try to do a length check soon. I want to look into different heat protectants before I flat iron my hair to do it. But just from doing a little pulling, I think it's just a little above my shoulders. Not bad huh?

So now I'm trying to find another style I can do besides my little fro (woohoo that it's no longer a "faux-fro!"). Or at least some accessories!

Anyway, whaddaya think?